In recent times I have come closer to being the creature I believe I was meant to be. I've also been bestowed with the knowledge and realization that we all become that person in our own time. As competitive creatures we cannot help being envious of others who we believe have discovered some sort of bliss. We go through periods of hopelessness and wonder why it is that we can’t attain a position to be envied.
Latest Entries »
In recent times I have come closer to being the creature I believe I was meant to be. I’ve also been bestowed with the knowledge and realization that we all become that person in our own time. As competitive creatures we cannot help being envious of others who we believe have discovered some sort of bliss. We go through periods of hopelessness and wonder why it is that we can’t attain a position to be envied. But alas there are always persons that would love to walk in our shoes.
There are always persons that look up to you for one reason or another
There are always persons that recognize the value that you bring to this world.
There are always persons that give you reasons to go on living.
We owe it to these persons, as well as ourselves to live our best life ever.
With age comes great wisdom ( being wise is truly a function of age and experience). As a youngster you may idolize celebrities thinking that they have a fantastic life…until you read the tabloids and recognize that their issues are both deeper and wider than yours. You then realize that it’s not such a fabulous life after all and start to appreciate the path you live on.
Your grandmothers’ clichés are always based on nothing but truth and you cannot help but stand in that truth as you grow older and wiser.
You learn to follow your instinct because only you know what is indeed right for you
You learn that dreams are just that…dreams… but only until you set the wheels in motion
You learn that you have to at least try because there are no fairy godmothers or free lunches
You learn that though you came into this world alone and will leave through that same lonely door, you are not here alone
And then you learn some more….
Where do you look for happiness?
Is it inside or outside?
Do you seek to find happiness from internal things or the stimuli from outside of your realm of consciousness?
In our quest for the realization of who we are and to live a productive life, we should be turning our gaze inwards. In our path to an enlightened existence , the ultimate destination is to be happy inside the bodies we are assigned to. In life, you need to control the controllable, and in your life, you control what is on the inside
In our formative years we have no choice but to be dependent. This is a part of life’s great circle. We are all fortunate to be here in spite of any strenuous circumstances that we have endured. We must be grateful to everyone and everything that allowed us to be here now because the truth is that we are here now and owe it to ourselves to stay in this moment. Never forget that gratitude begets happiness and when you help others, ultimately, though you may not see it now, you are helping yourself.
As we continue to mature and recognize who we are, a part of our duty to ourselves is to be comfortable with that person and leverage our true potential to fulfill the destinies we believe are ours.
So many lessons to be be learned and so many stimuli that bend and stretch our tolerance and our faith in what we believe. In the end, we recognize the only truth has lied within us after all this time. If we keep looking outside, the truth will continue to evade us.
It is the inward gaze that opens our eyes.
All the push and encouragement from outside means nothing until we internalize it. We take all these lessons, assimilate and process and then make a decision to be who we are. We have to be responsible for who we are and recognize that we have in fact made ourselves.
In this great journey, choose to make yourself
We were born with the capacity for wisdom. As beings of energy we continue to accumulate knowledge at every step of the way. We were also born with “shadows”. Our shadow follow us everywhere, but changes is size and shape depending on where we are and how we are positioned.
I was ending the summer losing in 4 tournaments in semi-final rounds. Reaching the semis is an achievement but you only get a trophy for winning or making it to the finals. I was disappointed in my game especially since I know that I should have won at least 3 of those four matches. My trophy case looked the same as it did last year with no new entries. I ended up getting on the court and beating myself almost every single time. It was all in my head and I lost the matches before I even played them.
When I heard about a tournament last weekend I was determined to turn these losses around and apply what I had learned about mental fortitude. I got onto the court and blew through the opening rounds making it to my fifth semi final this summer. Here I was again in the semis facing an opponent that was levels better than me. From the looks of things this was about to be the toughest match of my summer. I was doomed to perpetual semi-final losses.
But..this didn’t faze me. I got onto that court believing in my game and believing that I could win. I got onto that court and played one of the best matches of my life. In the end I lost 4-6, 4-6 in a closely contested match where my opponent had to fight to win. It should’ve been a massacre but I had the belief. He commended me and admitted that he was lucky to win that match. For me this was a HUGE win. Better than when I got off the court winning matches at 6-0, 6-0.
I left my shadow on the side lines. I refused to be consumed by the negative thoughts and the fear of defeat that plagued me in previous matches. I had belief. In the end it wasn’t about winning. It was about playing my best game ever…and every time. If you are not going to give your best effort then why bother to show up? Even when I hate my job, I am going to do my best job until I move on. Wherever you stand ..there you are. You have to be present in every moment.
At the end of our existence, shadows remain. These are the ghosts that define us. If we choose to stand with or shadows behind us, we are the master of our shadows.
Births, Deaths and Marriages are not the only life changing events. Promotions, New Jobs, a big move to another city, these are all major events that can be life altering as well.
Change from within can alter your existence in ways that are so enlightening that you can fell like you are reborn. You feel that you can bury old things once and for all, and you can use some old things in new ways.
In essence, every event is still either a birth, a death, a marriage or a combination of all three.
An artist gives birth to a body of work and offers it up to the world.
You finally quit smoking or some bad, draining habit that is not lifting you in any way shape or form. This is a death.
You learn to use a latent talent while taking up a creative hobby for a new venture. This is a marriage.
New beginnings mean also new endings as you put away old and useless things in exchange for better things. This is the essence of progress.
Remember § Stop, Start, Continue § from an older post ♦(New Beginnings)♦ ? In the spring while we clean out our closets, it’s time for another SSC. What will you stop doing, start doing and continue doing along this journey to make it better?
When you step out into the world tomorrow how will you be pronounced? What is your prefix and what defines you? Are we seeing the same old you or better version of yourself?
Are you pregnant with purpose ready to give birth to news things and bury the old destructive things? Are you learning to use all your resources and talents together to reach your goals.
It is now Springtime. Start breathing it in.
You made it past the hurdle. Relief is one of those unequalled life experiences.
You’ve jumped over roadblocks, scaled mountains never to look back : what a refreshing feeling!
You’ve made it onto solid ground on the plain placing the mountain behind you…but guess what? Now you have rivers to cross! A different beast but a beast none the less. It seems that life throws curve balls everywhere we turn. Always one more river to cross.
This is the view of the pessimist. The basket is never empty.
Welcome to your life.
Who was it that said this would be easy? I have not read anywhere or gathered any knowledge along my journey stating that life is an easy road. When you find that piece of knowledge, please be sure to forward it so I can share it with the masses.
I’ve realized that the true test of character is how to stay and cope. After all, aren’t we in it to win it? I welcome challenges. This journey is a learning curve and the faster we adapt and move to the next phase is the better things we be. The majority of our moments will be happy when we shorten the ones through which we struggle. You’ve made it thus far so what is the big deal about crossing rivers? As in January’s post, sooner or later, one way or another, everything ends. Something else begins and lessons are learned.
Shorten that learning curve. Adapt.
So now I welcome challenges. I have overcome so many hurdles and crossed so many mountains that I’m anxious now to wade in the water. My life is built on experiences and at this point I am ready for anything. I have learned how to take on challenges head on with a minimized level of fear.
Even though there is one more river to cross, today I have one less mountain to climb. I’m pausing and celebrating the little triumphs.
Nina Simone said it best and we should say it every day:
It’s a new dawn, it’s a new day, it’s a new life…and I’m feeling good
In my tennis practice sessions I’ve been working on flattening out cross court incoming shots into down the line winners off both wings. This shot is a high risk shot because it:
1. Opposes the natural direction of the ball
2. Is more difficult to execute than a regular shot
3. Can force you to make errors ( the bane of any player)
On the flip side this shot is high reward because:
1. It is Unexpected
2. It changes the pace
4. It puts you in an offensive position
3. When executed correctly, can be a lethal winner.
Rather than playing the high percentages ( easier to execute but less effective shots ) I tend to go for the low percentage ( harder to execute but lethal when done correctly)
In life there are things that are high risk high reward. When you continue to play the way you are expected, in tennis and in life, you become boring, mundane and predictable. Continue along this path and you lose a sense of achievement.
What are you really achieving if you keep doing the same things and getting the same results?
Wouldn’t it be rewarding if you knew you took a chance, gambled on life and actually won?
Of course, all risks should be taken in the calculated fashion of weighing the pros and cons. Like all decisions, timing can sometimes be everything. Im definitely not going for a low percentage shot at 0-40 down and I’m not quitting my job when I am 3 months behind in my mortgage.
If you wallow in self doubt you will never take that leap of faith. We are so much more than we lead ourselves to believe and we learn this by reaping the high rewards of a risk shot.
Every inspirational story has the common thread of high risk chances. How many success stories involve quitting your day job and following your bliss? Investing your money in a startup that could fail, but could also become the next Facebook or Twitter? This is definitely high risk. You leave a stable income and gamble on the very essence of survival. Ultimately though, you may reap the ultimate high reward.
As we move through our lives, ask ourselves am I walking too much on easy street? Am I just getting by on the basics? I am simply just complacent where I am? Should I take a chance to stop existing and really start living?
All of us can be so much more than we think we are….but it will take some high risk decisions to get where we really need to be.
One way or another, everything ends.
The past few months were fraught with trials, tribulations, challenges but also triumphs, positive revelations and sucesses. While life happens, work, school, family, health, friendships are all tried on a daily basis. In the end we realize that whatever the outcome, we will to chip through the rubble and I see some sort of ending.
No matter how good or bad the situation is, everything is finite and simply must end.
My classmate panicked before an exam, my response to her was….one way or another, in two hours, this will all end.
I thought…..words of wisdom or a cowardly way of realising ” now you are here…and then you will be there..so let the chips fall where they may?
This all depends on your outlook because preparation is everything.
If she knew the stakes and prepared for the exam through proper study and time management, she would relax knowing that she was prepared and in two hours this will all end.
Instead she was entering underprepared, but still knowing that in two hours it will all end.
While it is true that everything ends, we must realize that we have an impact on many aspects of the ending. We do not leave everything up to the pupetmaster of fate that pulls our strings. There is comfort in realizing that any discomfort has to eventually end.
You give everything your best effort. When everything ends, regardless of the outcome, it feels better when you know that you gave it your best shot. In this is way, there are nor regrets and we move on to our next challenge.
Seek comfort knowing that everything ends, but harvest courage in knowing that you can alter your ending.